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My wife and I are traveling to Europe for a well-deserved vacation;
we'll be away for 10 days. Our 3-yr old daughter will stay at home
with both sets of grandparents. She will be fine (she loves all four
of them), but she's never been away from either parent for more than 4
days, never more than one at a time. How should we prepare her for the
temporary separation? (we've been thinking of going to cybercafes and
do a daily, regularly scheduled video chat... that's one alternative)
BTW, we're going to Spain. Spain has one heck of an internet culture:
cybercaf s everywhere. As far as video cellphones, that's a maybe. But
I'm really more interested in the parenting aspect, namely the
separation anxiety. The contacting part, we'll handle.
Greetings Demf4:
The cyber cafe and the cell phone display are two great ways of
keeping in touch with your daughter while you are away yet, as Tehuti
pointed out in the comments, you may not find constant access to a
computer cafe while you are abroad and cell phone cost might be
extremely high.
My first suggestion would be for you and your spouse to make a series
of cassette tapes (or CDs, if you have a burner) where you are talking
to your daughter and "highlighting your vacation" and telling her how
much you miss her. Just brief five minute spots. A recording could
be played for her each day while you are gone and you would make them
general. Then, you can always supplement the recordings with cyber
connections or phone calls but she will be guaranteed to hear your
voices each day you are away.
The second suggestion I have is for you is a type of homemade
advent-type calendar with a space for each day you are away. Inside
each space would be a type of small token or candy. To acheive the
"calendar" you could purchase small a nine to twelve drawer jewelry
drawer OR you could take empty matchboxes and glue them together to
make as many drawers as you wanted. For the drawer handles, use prong
paper fasteners like the ones shown about 2/3 down the page at
http://www.keysan.com/ksu0741.htm - they make great drawer handles.
The affair also makes a great Barbie accessories chest for later. ;)
Contact paper or gift wrap can be used to cover the finished box
arrangement (maybe a Barney or Elmo paper, whatever she likes) and
then you would put a little token in each drawer. Each day you are
away, she may open one drawer, whichever one she chooses, and then the
drawer stays out of the arrangement after that. This will give her a
visual of "days left" while you are away and make it a fun a game for
her and her grandparents. You can make the tokens trip-related or not
- that would be your choice. You can even put slips of paper in the
drawers - one might say "Is there a present in the hall closet for
you?? Better go look!!"
Another possibility (and you could do this in conjunction with the
recordings or "calendar" drawers) would be to write letters to her
before you go and leave them for the grandparents to open one each
day. Decorate them with used stamps and lots of color and maybe have
something in each envelope, a little token of some kind. The
suggestion "Oooh, I wonder what the mail will bring you tomorrow??"
would be another fun activity for her. A grandparent can plant them
in the mailbox and then she and a grandparent can walk to the mailbox
each day and she will have a letter from you every day.
I'll admit the search phrase for this situation seems not a simple one
yet I did locate text for business travellers at
http://www.businesstravellerindia.com/200111/familyties.htm that may
help your situation:
"Announcing your trip to your family as far in advance as you can,
helps them absorb the fact of your absence. Especially with small
children, mention your trip repeatedly. What these children most need
to know is when you are coming back in concrete terms that fit in with
their sense of time. For example, it may not mean anything if you tell
your four-year-old, “I will be back by Saturday morning,” if he
doesn’t know his days of the week. Better connect your return to one
of the week’s regular events: “I will be back to take you to the
chocolate store.”
"Children under three, in particular, may not understand that you are
coming back at all. Start a project with them to be finished when you
return. Remind him of it when you talk on the telephone."
The article had other tips, too, about the child helping you pack and
such.
Another article that may be helpful is "Preparing Your Children" at
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/travel_without_kids_p2.html
that deals with taking a trip away from your children. This articles
suggests "If you cannot call during your child's waking hours, leave a
daily message on the answering machine." It also suggests that
"issues of separation are most prevalent between 6 months and 2 years"
so the fact your daughter is three years-old woould seem to be a boon
for you.
I hope my suggestions will be of assistance and if you need
clarification of any of the links or information I have provided,
please request it and I will be happy to respond.
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