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I was a member of a sorority at my former college for about one year. In the summer before my sophomore year, I moved into the sorority 'house' (not really a house as greek orgs. on that campus don't get housing... we had an apartment that we held a lot of functions in.) Everything was going okay for a while, but then things got really bad. The sisters I lived with started pressuring me to drink (I usually sipped one drink to get them off my back, but then they told me I didn't drink enough, or the right things, or that I was no fun, etc.), teasing me, and insulting me about how I wouldn't drink. That was bad enough, but I dealt with it. Things really went downhill when they started pressuring me to do drugs... one of the sisters even had an "intervention" for me to try to convince me to start doing drugs. I was furious. They knew my beliefs and just kept telling me I was a hypocrite because I wouldn't try drugs. I eventually got fed up, and coupled with a personal problem at home, I decided to leave the apartment and the school (the school was small and had a drug problem as well, but this was the final straw) and went alum. I left at the end of August, and I even gave them a check for September just so they would be okay financially before they found someone else to move in. I never had a lease... I kept asking the girl in charge about it, but she kept putting it off, but they say I still owe them all the money anyway. Today, my sisters sent a threatening, angry letter to my parents demanding money for the room. They knew that their drug and alcohol use was the main reason I left, but they're acting like I just up and left on a whim. Now all of my sisters hate me, but I don't want to give them money after what they did, and my parents say I should just ignore the letter. The ones who live in the house are making the uninvolved sisters hate me, and now I've lost everyone, even the sisters I still liked. It was their fault I left, but they're making it my fault. What do I do??
Go to the sponsor of your sorority and report it and if that doesn't work go to the president of the university. That could almost be considered hazing!
If you are getting harassed, keep a record of everything. If you have conversations or text messages on a cell phone that they sent you that are harassing, keep all of them. Same thing with any e-mail messages. If you never signed a lease regarding the apartment, then they cannot get money from you. You owe them nothing. If the harassment continues, tell them that you will be filing a harassment suit against them. Get your parents to help, you probably have a case against them. If you have anything that proves they were/are using drugs and alcohol you can complain to the school and file reports against them.
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moved on to help the sorority sisters with Ford. So, Kate threatened to tip off the DA that Roman suppressed Please, oh please, let the DiMera
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Good luck. Hopefully you can move on and go to another school.
Lose these b*tches...fast
get a restraining order on the offendees that includes a "no contact" of any kind order, present the letter to the police department and report the problem to the school. You do not owe them anything. btw- they are not your sisters anymore. unfortunately for the rest of them its time to move on and make new friends
Sounds like a bunch of DBags. Absolutely do not pay them. Your self-esteem will thank you.
I'd speak to the college/school about it. At least your parents are on your side - have you told them all the reasons that you left? If not, I think you should, so that they know what is really going on.
I'm not really 'up' on what goes on in these sorority places as I didn't go to university in the USA (assuming that's where you are), but threatening behaviour is threatening behaviour wherever you are and I think you are quite within your rights to speak to the college about it. I'm sure you're not the first person who has had this sort of grief from immature college friends and I would imagine that they have some way of dealing with it.
But anyway, speaking as a novice in the ways of the college system where you live, that's what I suggest - sorry if speaking to the college is just a complete no no, but from where I'm sitting, that seems to be the best way forward.
Whatever happens, I hope you sort it out as I'm sure it must be affecting your social life and your studies.
They are exhibiting typical mob mentality. You need to divide and conquer. How do you go about doing that? Contact the police and inform them that there is always drugs present in that house. The school authorities will do nothing, as they want to preserve their image. If the police do nothing, then write a letter (anonymously) to your local paper. Once the heat turns up on these girls, watch how fast they turn on each other. They will be so busy getting themselves out of trouble that they will not even concern themselves with you.
Stop whining. Either tell the national chapter about it and send them the supporting documentation or just get over it.
What do you care what these idiots think about you? If the sisters you liked are that easily swayed by someone elses opinion, then you don't need them as friends.
You should also report this all to the police.
You say that you "know" that no one will believe you but you won't really know that for sure until you try.
Either do something or get over it and move on.
Your feelings are hurt and that's okay. You have every right to feel that way. But you need to move on. The past is NEVER going to change and they are NEVER going to say they are sorry.
If you never signed a lease, then you have no reason to pay any money to these girls. You were more than generous when you gave them enough to cover an extra month.
It may seem like cliche advice, but if the girls who you like are siding with the other sisters, then they aren't worth having as friends anyway. The great thing about being in college is that there are so many different social groups and clubs that you can be a part of. Try some new things, and find some people who share the same interests and views as you. Don't let small, petty people bother you... They aren't worth your concern.
Send them a letter stating that you will not pay for anything above and beyond what you have already paid. If they do not stop contacting you, you will turn them into the school for drug and alcohol use.
After that letter is sent, ignore anything else they send you, just keep it somewhere...and if they really think they are entitled to any more money, let them take you to small claims court for it. Then you can hammer them with harrassment and drug/alcohol abuse.
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