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How did you feel when you realized that you did not have to rely on your personality anymore?

Unfortunately, as much as this sounds bad, it's true. I remember I used to always joke around with everyone, until I realized it was drawing too many people, specifically men...started getting uncomfortable...

What's your story?

WEll I was that wierd girl with glasses and nappy hair..Well things change in the"real world". WE live in a society where looks matter! I don't care what anybody else has to say its true! I gained plenty of weight after my first child and I noticed I didn't get the same respect and for some answerers to say that it's sad to rely on looks then they are in terrible denial because that's what its all about. I'm not saying its right but it's the way it is. As for me I work out and eat healhy as I"m detemined to never feel fat AGAIN!@!

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This is a sad question. If you have to depend on looks alone to attract friends that must mean your still unattractive both inside and out. People are either going to like you for you or not. So why try conforming to others standards to impress them versus your own? I myself have never considered myself ugly nor will I ever. I have good self esteem and get along just fine attracting people so I can't understand where your coming from which seems like a very insecure and shallow one.

I went from a skinny, tall, shy and insecure teenage to a Beautiful secure and successful woman. I realize when I started college that I had to dress better and be more outgoing. Right away I notice the attraction of guys towards me. Very cute ones were calling me and getting to know me. When I will tell them that I didn't think I was beautiful they didn't believe me. It took me awhile to realize that I was attractive. Then it went to my head (a little). Hey, I made up for those ugly days!

I don't believe that I literally went from unattractive to attractive. I think my transformation was more so based on my own perception of myself. As I grew older I stopped listening to what people thought of me. When that happened I started to see myself as beautiful instead of not measuring up to a societal/western standard of beauty. It was then that I noticed the attention that I had always received. I have always relied on my personality, and I have always evaluated the personalities of the men I have come in contact with.

Beauty is fleeting and perception based.

Now, that isn't to say that beauty doesn't matter because your first impression is usually based on looks. However, I believe that in order to be successful in relationships you have to look beyond superficiality (because, again, they don't last and they are also dangerous things to base your perception of someone off of).

I don't understand this. Since I was a teen, a fair few guys would ask me out on dates but I honestly thought they were teasing me, never thought I was attractive.
Even now I don't even though some say I am.
Could not imagine relying on looks, it just seems shallow, sorry to say.
Looks come and go anyway.

I used to be over 300 pounds! I really did rely on my personality to draw people in, and believe me I was witty and fun to be around so I never lacked for company. Then I finally dropped 100 pounds and I look great! BUT ( and it's a big one lol) then I was TOO extreme for everyone. I got catty remarks from women who had never even noticed me before and WAY too much attention from men ( it goes to your head) I've learned to tone it down a bit and now rely on a quieter type of humor. It just takes time to learn to do this, but it's much more comfortable.

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Sexy girls drive me crazy but i don't know why i don't talk to them and when i . I don't know how attractive/unattractive the men were, but I would guess
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I suppose I could fit into this category. When I was young, I was relatively unnoticed. Now, man approach me all the time. I don't really think I went from unattractive to attractive, but rather with age comes a different perspective from the men. Older men realize that perfection is an illusion only and there's something rare and unique about someone who's naturally attractive and unapologetic about the fact that there's nothing fake about them.

I've always looked the same. But I had low self esteem in highschool, and gained more self esteem after I left. I still rely on my personality as I want people to like me for me, and not for how I look.
I must admit it feels great when all the people who ignored me in highschool do a double take when they see me with my new found confidence in the street.

Well, I went from being 215 pounds, 5"8, with short curly brown hair(think a boys haircut short), and bad complexion to what I am currently, which is
195 pounds, 5'10 and shoulder-length curly but usually straightened auburn hair and a nice complexion.
Oddly enough, I was more confident before, because I was blissfully unaware that I was disgustingly hideous. I would just go up to guys and tell them how I felt, convinced that I had a good enough personality.
Now, I still don't get many guys who think I am pretty, but I have a boyfriend. However, being shot down so many times before, and constantly being called fat, and being unattractive has made me self conscious and shy, and even though I've lost weigh and gotten taller, I still get very sad sometimes.

You realise how superficial people are. I don't want to rely on looks to gain friends or attention. I find people's reactions very interesting, like if they think you are good looking and you are done up in nice clothes and jewels they think you must be this ornamental doll like creature. They are suprised when they learn I love things that they do like motorbikes, video games and kick boxing.

In high school I was chubby, taller then everyone else and wore a backbrace. I was never told I was attractive. After leaving high school I lost weight, got rid of the brace because my back straightened out and suddenly the guys were into my height (Im 5'11). It feels weird because I get real uncomfortable knowing people judge me by appearence and not my personality. I notice girls are a little cattier towards me and people don't find my jokes as funny. I think people expect me to be confident but I still feel like the awkward teenager inside.

I will give you a man's perspective, because this happens to some of us too.

I was, in my own estimation, unattractive until quite recently (a few years ago. Part of the issue was being an identical twin, but my brother was always healthy, and I was not, and that affected how I saw myself. For me, personality was the key to any relationship, but it is even more so now that I dress well, am well groomed, My manners were always good, for whatever that was worth.

I just got sick of it a few years back and decided to put my best foot forward in terms of appearance and associations, and it paid off. Contrary to your suppostition, I find I have to rely on my personality more now than before because I don't want to be judged wholly on appearances either. Also contrary to what people here have already said, judging by appearances is normal and natural, and not shallow at all if it is balanced with other characteristics. Try going to a job interview dressed like a dogs dinner and see how far your personality gets you! Appearances do matter, and first appearances and the impressions they make count beyond measure.

I have seen people (and I will go out on a limb here and say they are mostly women) who want to get through life based on looks. Personality is more important, but harder to reveal from a distance, but anyone who expects to get through life with a winning smile and a hot body is, to my mind, the truly shallow person, be they male or female..

I hear ya girl, I was ugly all through school and then I got out in the real world and grew up, I guess I blossomed. I like to keep my personality though because it makes me a double threat.