have been dating a guy since August and I just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant. I have done 6 pg tests...all positive. Today i went to the dr and am waiting for confirmation from them. The weird thing is i had my period on sept 19th...i was expecting to get my period soon...i wasnt really worried that i was pg, but i tested anyways. i was suprised. I told him and he was upset and even asked me if he was the only guy i'd been with. He said he felt bad, but he had to ask. He basically wants to keep the baby, i dont. I would like to have an abortion...i am probably 4 weeks along, i hardly know him and i'd be embaressed to have a baby out of wedlock with someone i havent been with for even a long time! I am suprised he is for it. He said he wants kids. He's 34, i'm 30. My parents would kill me. Everyone would just be shocked...what would you all do if you were me?
You are going to kill an innocent child your own sweet child because you are embarrassed? Not so embarrassed you were using birth control.. so now the child gets to die a painful death and get thrown in a trash can because your embarrassed Wow!! you are a grown woman who cares about your parents!! give him the baby he sounds more mature . i am sorry i am being cold hearted to you but abortion is an awful thing!!I had my 1st child at sixteen and didn't give my self any ex cusses i made it i take care of it now he is 7 years old and my whole life..
ya you need to keep it. its a human too. if you really don't think your ready for the responsibility then put it up for adoption. there is always someone out there that really wants a baby but can't have one
You're 30 and you're considering having an abortion? I'm sorry but that's just selfish. That baby didn't ask to be conceived, and should have every right to live. It sounds like the father wants to be an active figure in the child's life, so if you don't. give that baby a chance at life, have it, and let him have custody. You say you would be embarassed to have a baby out of wedlock and your parents would kill you? you're 30 years old, grow up and take responsibility. hey, I know it's harsh, but you asked for opinions, and this is my honest opinion.
well everyone says its murder to abort but honestly... i dont think the kid would want to grow up in a relationship that is already apart. Anyways at the time the child is inside the womb i dont think its nerve ends have even developed yet so i dont think it will even feeel anything. studies have show that a child in a married successful relationship end up better off than those in a divorced or seperated one. so if you are going to marry this man make sure he is the right one if you decide to have the baby. if you dont have the baby it could make things easier on the both of you. im probably gonna get a bunch of thumbs down from all thepro life zealots out there but oh well.
Well first of all I do not believe in abortions. Second of all you are 30 years old. You can't let your parents control your life forever. Everyone will get over it and if not well who cares. Me and my husband have been trying to have a baby for about a year now and it hasn't happened. I hate the fact that the women who want babies really bad just can't but the women who just don't care or don't need a baby can get pregnant. And I don't understand how anyone can have an abortion that is killing an innocent child. What did that baby ever do to you? Why would you want to do that. At least put the baby up for adoption, at least give the baby a life. Why should you have the choice of whether the baby lives or dies if you don't want him or her anyways.
You're the one who would be putting all of the physical time and energy into the pregnancy.
You're the one whose body and health will be affected.
If you truly do not want to have this child: don't have it.
That's all I can say.
Every child that's brought into this world should be wanted 100% by its parents. It shouldn't be brought into this world because of what other people might think or some misplaced sense of guilt.
If you visit Planned Parenthood's Web sites, you will find information on all of your options, including adoption and abortion. You can also find access to a counselor who will help you decide what you want to do.
I agree with "Baby boy on the way." If you don't want the baby, then please give it up for adoption or give custody to the father. The baby deserves to live. You shouldn't care what your parents think! You're a grown adult and need to accept this.
You're a grown woman,I think its about time you act like it, you knew the risk before you messed around, so don't take it out on the baby.You can only blame one person for this ...YOU
HAVE THIS BABY!!!! DON'T YOU DARE KILL YOUR BABY!!!
IT is risky and you can die. So what what they say, who gives a sh..
Are you going to make the world happy or you and your baby happy.
You are old enough to have a baby. I had mine at 21. I had an ABORTION at 18. that abortion killed me.
please visit this website and it will give warn you about abortion:
www.abort73.com Please I get you, do not kill your baby angel. What if it is the only baby you are ment to have? What if God is sending it to you now becasue it will do great things for society. A family is ment to have. Do not steal the world of life and beauty away from her. You will always tormented like I am. It is a living HELL!!! each day and night. Please email me, I lived through it already. Please, email me asap at
chulitaponce@yahoo.com immediately so I can talk to you about it first and then make your decision. Please I beg you with the most powerful voice in the sky. I scream at you, please don't do it. Don't do it for the love of my most precious baby angel who is above heaven with God. Do it for her and all those who are killed in abortions.
I'll be waiting for your reply anxiously.
Thank you,
Gordis
have a baby... yeah at least you are with a guy that wants to keep it.. could be worse.. he could be the kind that says have it taken care of.. I don't believe abortion is okay under any circumstances... you are 30 don't you think you parents would rather have a grand baby than have you kill it because you were worried what they would think.. If you don't want to keep this baby that is fine put it up for adoption of hey let the dad have it... but you are the one who got pregnant don't be a cop-out and kill your first child... you will always regret it...
At 30 you are mature enough to have a child and take care of that child. You are very willing to sleep with this guy that you hardly know and it is Always a possibility to become pregnant when having sex. You did the deed you should have the baby, grow up and take responsibility for your actions. The idea of an abortion is very SELFISH. Your parents may surprise you. They may be disappointed but they will proudly LOVE a grandchild when it is all said and done.
Honestly - you need to do what you feel is right for you. At the end of the day, it is your body and you need to be comfortable. Having a baby is a big decision and a lifetime commitment. Whether you have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption, there will be emotional consequencess. You do not want to do something that you will regret for the rest of your life and you do not want to have an attachement to a guy that questions your faithfulness (even if he is willing to accept responsibility). Resentment is a bitter pill.
Good luck with whatever you decide :)
You should keep the baby. Everything happens for a reason. A child is a blessing. I'm not trying to be mean, but if you didn't want to get pregnant, why didn't you use birth control and a condom? Two of my best friends have had an abortion, and they have told me it is the worst mistake of their lives and that they will never be able to forgive themselves. You do not want to live with that guilt and shame for the rest of your life. Congratulations on the new life that you have begun to create. Cherish this gift and blessing, and move forward. It may be scary, but please keep the baby. You will regret it if you have an abortion. God created that baby for you. He has a plan for you and your child (as well as the father) and God will provide for you. You are 30 years old. Why do you care if anyone else approves? It's YOUR life! You are a grown woman and you deserve to be happy! Best wishes!
I'm pregnant too, so I can relate as far as that part goes anyway :)
I'm 26, um I would be shocked too like you and really unsure of things. But my heart would tell me to do the right thing, and honestly that is let your baby live. We don't always make the best choices I know first hand, but that isn't the little baby inside your belly's fault. He (or she!) deserves a chance out here with us. If you were to ask them this question, I think you would get a very definite "YES, I want to live" from he or she :) I think it's good that you are at least considering your options though, most people just make a decision and then regret it later when the damage has been done. (man do I know about that!!) I wish I could be there to support you though through your pregnancy. This is my second one and I love being a mom. Honestly. I know your circumstances are different then mine, but there really isn't anything us humans cannot overcome in this world. Do not worry about what people, friends, family members etc. will think about you - you have to answer for the baby's life inside you, not them! (Meaning before God, for yourself etc). I know you will make the right decision, tough (heck yeah!) but I promise you will never regret your decision to allow this baby to live. Ever.
Okay, so you would be embarrased to have a child out of wedlock with someone you hardly know, but you thought nothing of jumping in the sack with him?? Anyway, it is not a "blob of tissue", but a child - your child, that has a heartbeat, little fingers and toes and is beginning to form fingerprints. An abortion is unthinkable, it is murder plain and simple. I'm sorry that the timing wasn't right for you, but maybe you will think twice about being so free with yourself in the future. If you aren't ready, maybe think of giving your child up for adoption. I know some parents who considered abortion but decided to keep the baby, and now they are horrified that they even thought of killing their precious baby.
I would totally keep it even if I was 25 and single. I am actually 26 and pregnant. I had a civil wedding, no big fancy ceremony two years ago. When I told my husband I was preg, he wanted me to have an abortion, because he thought we couldnt finnancially make it. I agreed in the beginning to please him, then at the Drs office I realized I couldnt do it. I talked with my husband and I convinced him it will be Ok to have the baby. He was just schocked and scared and now he keeps making plans for the baby and saving money. You are lucky, the guy likes you and wants to be a Dad. Give him a chance, he seems that he will be a good Dad and who knows? he might be the love of your life. Dont mind what other people thinks. You parents will be happy with you and your baby.
id have the baby and then if you can't care for it give it up for adoptchon and it will have a happy home
To be honest- I would keep it. I had two daughters with my husband before we were married and of course, everyone was shocked and disappointed at first but that was in the past within a month. A baby is the most precious change you will ever experience and regardless of whether or not you are married- it is a baby. You are an adult and if you REALLY don't want the baby- go through the pregnancy and let him adopt it or let someone else adopt it. I assure you- you will have a change of heart though. I do not know one girl who has had an abortion that does not regret it every day. You can do this regardless of what the fear is telling you right now =)
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