I have been with this girl for two years and I recently found out that she is pregnant. But when I found out she was pregnant she told me I might not be the dad. She had been with this guy from the army the whole month he was here. Im gonna take care of the child if its mine but what should I do about her. Should I stay with her I mean I love her and she says she wants to be with me but she still talks to him alot.
Maybe the fellow from the army loves her, too, are you really prepared for what can be a very sticky threesome (figuratively I mean of course)?
Wait for the DNA test...if the kid is yours then get married, if not kick her to the curb.
That's a tough situation. I think all three of you need a break from one another until paternity is established. It's so difficult to tell someone who loves a person to tell that person to go away. So, I am not going to do that. If the child is yours, you need to soul search and be sure you can have the trust needed to maintain your lives. Otherwise, you and your child will be unhappy. If you cannot meet the demands of this type of marriage/relationship, then go for 50-50 joint custody. She pays for the child's needs when she has him, and vise- versa. The fact that she still talks to him alot is because she likes him and because she is not sure just who is the father yet. She was not thinking of either of you at some point.
If she is not going to sever all ties to Gi. Schmoe then you can never trust her again.
IF she does agree to never see, talk on the phone with, IM, TXT, or webcam with Pvt. Schmuck Boy then you have to decide if you want to go through life knowing that you are dating a cheater. And if you Do decide to continue dating her - you will always have to trust, but verify what she tells you. Not worth it.
Honestly, she probably told you about Pvt. ******** because she is too much of a chickenshit to break up with you her self and she is hoping that you are angry enough to break up with her, thus resolving her dilemma, and nicely cutting you out of her kids life while still getting you to pick up 1/2 of the kids expenses for the next 18 years.
A condom doesn't sound like such a bad idea now does it?
honestly, you trust the fact that the baby is yours but you really can't trust her again. same thing happened to me and my boy is almost 4. only she waited to tell me when my so was 2 months old she cheated on me in the first place. its your decision whether you stay or go but it'll never be the same for you again before what happened happened. when shes late thats the first thing that pops into your mind: is she with him again?
or if she says shes going out with friends and you think the same thing.
if you can handle that stay with her but if not break the ties.
If thats your child maybe u guys should work it out but since shes still talking to him IDK, maybe u should tell her thats not cool she shouldnt be doing this??? Or just forget about her if thats not ur baby. Cause, she did it once, so shes probably going to do it again! Sorry!
Do you really want to be with someone who can be so insincere? That is sad, now theres a baby coming but no one knows who the daddy is. I think you should find out what her intentions are. Does she love you or not? Get a dna test to find out if youre the dad...you can be a great father without being a husband.
Dude, if the kid is not yours you should drop her like yesterday's newspaper. You need to make sure... I could not raise another man's kid that came into my life because of deceit. I hope the kid is not yours so that you can cut her loose.... even if she is lucky and you are the dad, she does not sound like a keeper to me. You have your hands full. Good Luck.
find out if the child is yours...if it is, i would be involved in the childs life but take a break from her. She obviously needs space, give her time to figure this out. If the child is yours, and you do continue the relationship she needs to be 100% committed to you. I would take a break from the relationship until alittle after the baby comes and then if its mean't to be,, it will work out.
If its not yours...i wouldn't stand for it. She cheated, and you deserve more.
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Should I stay with her or leave her.?