ive noticed that when someone has hurt me or said something bad about me i tend to judge them straight away. and i keep my distance no matter how nice they seem. i will never let them in! but i cant help but think that i just dont want these people in my life as a result from that tiny bit of negativity they have shown me? does that make sence?
why do i do this?
Make perfectly good sense to me. I'm exactly the same.
We just can't take the slightest of bad things said about us.
Maybe it's because deep down we're insecure about ourselfs.
And we only want the people who think good of us around.
Will probaly explain why i'm still single! "/
Keep in there, one day things will change.
I am the exact same. I tend to hold grudges if people hurt me in anyway. Try talking to someone who'll understand that way they would do their best to never hurt you and they'll support you when others do.
because you dont want to get hurt
that's actually not a good idea, because you're judging a whole person on one little thing they said or did that offended you.. remember they're only human too and probably didn't mean it. you should forgive them and try again.. if it happens another time then maybe it's time to give up. Negative Thinking::
how they help or trouble you, and what to do about counterproductive thought habits. Why do I push people away? Why do people like being scared? Too Shy
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I don't want to make this sound like a diagnosis but only give you my circumstances which may help you understand. I have suffered severe anxiety in the last 10 years and I have searched myself for answers as well as receieved treatment some years ago. I took myself off of medication within 3 months as I was able control my thinking enough to begin the journey of understanding my own thinking and why I thought like I did. Including why I was greatly liked but had no lasting friends. I beleive that the reason for me was due to the anxiety I thought I would have to face if someone hurt me. Instead I had to change my thinking from that to just accepting that. Others have many of their own problems, probably worse than mine and that although people say and do hurtful things that I need to forgive them to allow me the chance to be their friend.
have you had an experiance where youve let someone get close to you and they have let you down? if so then i think you just dont want to get hurt
Your barriers are up and that's the way you want it, When we get hurt by anyone no matter how small, we put up the barrier to protect ourselves, this is what you are doing.
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