I have been married two and a half years, women how do you deal with your husband funky moods and stay in love 411mania.com: Wrestling - Shining a Spotlight 11.15.07: Women in Grappling::
its been harder for them to get it going for more high-impact stuff five or ten years later and have Bret V Shawn in a huge pay-day revenge match.
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i've been married for 21 years at first it was rough because we where young.it hit bumps now but if you really love each other it will work out and you have to have patients. and understanding.and befriends as well as lovers.and if he have a funky mood give him room. don't keep asking him whats wrong.if he want tell you he well. good luck and god bless.
My husband is so damn good looking i knew i couldn't get anyone else as cute so that helped me stay with him. Plus he was very ambitious he knew what he wanted to do with his career and did it. He started at the very bottom and he climbed that cooperate ladder. How can you not love a man like that or should i say how do you leave a man that accomplishes that. Marriage is one big compromise more on your part then his.You have to let go of the old you and start all over bran new just you and your husband . We been married 29 1/2 years and that's not counting the 2 years we were engaged. We still love each other very much and we are each others best friend. The Infinite Matrix | Jasmina Tesanovic | Cats and Cars::
Ten years have passed by in the Why on earth did she stop loving him? Is it because they are women, or is it because men are happily married to them?
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That is where the better or worse part comes in.
Same way he deals with me... most times, hopefully, it's about a whole lot of "I love you" and supportive communication. Sometimes, though, it's about counting to 1 million and hoping you don't swallow your own tongue :)
Me personally, Ive dealt with my marriage by praying. Remember the vows you took, no one ever said marriage was going to be easy. There is no one in this world who has a perfect marriage, and if they say they do, they are lieing. You just got to really love your husband no matter what, and learn to like the things he likes is very important. The mistake a lot of women make is they always say no to their husband, whether it be no to sex, no to going out, etc..., you've gotta learn to really compromise with one another. You also have to learn to communicate, that has really worked in our marriage. My husband has a habit of getting mad at me and saying curse words, what I do is just walk away, or telling him how I feel never offending him back, because that only makes things worse. There always has to be a peace maker, not two dumb people. Always be loving and know that if he ever wants to do something stupid, its not going to be your fault, because you did everything you could to be the best you could be, and he's going to lose a good women. Remember love him, and communicate, talk things through and don't disrespect one another.
Don't be too serious (especially in the bedroom--and spend a lot of time there!) Laugh. Play. Enjoy life. Smile--a lot! Compete--but be good sports. Fight intensely, but fairly. Give the benefit of the doubt--even when it's difficult! If you chose someone you respect, with whom you are well-matched intellectually and philosophically, there will still be ups and downs, but it's an easier road, in my opinion. Forgive, sincerely.
Years 1--3 were the hardest for us. We had totally opposite conflict resolution abilities--I could argue my way out of anything--and he felt frustrated. For a while, I stopped arguing my point and tried to argue his, for him, but that was a resounding failure that exacerbated everything, as I'm sure you can imagine! :)
The point is, at first, there are many, many things you will both do badly. Everyone does--whether they admit it or not. Know yourself well. Know your triggers, and communicate them honestly and directly. If you have any 'deal-breaker' triggers, make sure you explain them openly. I have a couple that relate to past people--anyway--and while I explained the triggers, I didn't ever fully fill in the back story.
Talk about things that are hard to talk about, and answer direct questions honestly. Don't talk--or think--all the time. Learn to listen. Pay attention to the little things--they matter! Encourage each other, compliment each other, and hell yes, sometimes battle each other--it can be fun! :)
Stay invested and engaged, even when what you really want to do is run. (Caveat: if, for some reason, you *need* to run--your feet should be moving before you even stop to think!) Choose happiness--don't let the world decide your mood for you. Sometimes, lock the world out.
Lastly, people receive love differently, so learn what your husband receives as love, and tailor your efforts accordingly. For example, I know what he interprets as love is physical affection, hugs, kisses, back scratches, cuddling, etc... This is not naturally how I would show love, but I do this for him. He does the same for me--in different ways. I'm not suggesting insincerity, just a willingness to do what makes the other person feel good.
Stumble...get back up. Lather, rinse, repeat.
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